Grief is complicated. It settles in like a rock stirring up consequential reactions. Very similar to depression it can make it hard to move. Grief can even be triggered by a positive change. But for me this time it’s stirred up as I reflect on October…The anniversary of my moms death and when mine and my siblings life was changed forever. A grief that was encapsulated not just by the loss of our mom but all the details in between; changing cities, schools, homes, friends and “parents.”
Grief is complicated. Sometimes it hits you hard… other times it creeps and seeps in all around you… you don’t even know it’s there until the effects are everywhere. An unwanted companion that attempts to unpack everything, tangling you deeper.
Grief is complicated. It can even be triggered by positive changes… because Change, even if good, can have its own set of losses. the The bitter mixes in with the sweet. The waters muddy. As it churns sediment from the past rises reminding you of ALL change that produced loss. Leaving you spinning, confused… wait wasn’t this change good?
Grief is complicated. It is a reminder but not a forever. It will lay back down again. But during this time take care of it. Fighting it only makes it worse. Look into it, process it and pray through it. Each of us has our junk. Some more murkier than others but nonetheless it will settle just the same. The water and tears from your eyes will clear. And as you begin to look up again the clouds part and show you the Son was always there.
Blessed are those who mourn for they will be comforted… Matthew 5:4
He comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God…. 2 Corinthians 1:4